Category Archives: Women in Islam / Childrens Upbringing
every couple (husband and wife) that hope to be. But what their childs going to be, its deepend on how the parent give aducation to their childs.
Some of parents do not realize, before their childs know about other things, the first education that they have to give to their childs is about aqidah dan tawhid.
ﻭَﺇِﺫْ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻟُﻘْﻤَﺎﻥُ ﻻِﺑْﻨِﻪِ ﻭَﻫُﻮَ ﻳَﻌِﻆُﻪُ ﻳَﺎ ﺑُﻨَﻲَّ ﻻَ ﺗُﺸْﺮِﻙْ ﺑِﺎﻟﻠَّﻪِ ۖ ﺇِﻥَّ ﺍﻟﺸِّﺮْﻙَ ﻟَﻆُﻠْﻢٌ ﻋَﻆِﻴﻢٌ
Behold, Luqman said to his son by way of instruction: “O my son! join not in worship (others) with Allah: for false worship is indeed the highest wrong-doing.”
[Luqman : 13]
ﺃَﻡْ ﻛُﻨْﺘُﻢْ ﺷُﻬَﺪَﺍءَ ﺇِﺫْ ﺣَﻀَﺮَ ﻳَﻌْﻘُﻮﺏَ ﺍﻟْﻤَﻮْﺕُ ﺇِﺫْ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻟِﺒَﻨِﻴﻪِ ﻣَﺎ ﺗَﻌْﺒُﺪُﻭﻥَ ﻣِﻦْ ﺑَﻌْﺪِﻱ ﻗَﺎﻟُﻮﺍ ﻧَﻌْﺒُﺪُ ﺇِﻟَٰﻬَﻚَ ﻭَﺇِﻟَٰﻪَ ﺁﺑَﺎﺋِﻚَ ﺇِﺑْﺮَﺍﻫِﻴﻢَ ﻭَﺇِﺳْﻤَﺎﻋِﻴﻞَ ﻭَﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕَ ﺇِﻟَٰﻬًﺎ ﻭَﺍﺣِﺪًﺍ ﻭَﻧَﺤْﻦُ ﻟَﻪُ ﻣُﺴْﻠِﻤُﻮﻥَ
Were you witnesses when death appeared before Jacob? Behold, he said to his sons: “What will ye worship after me?” They said: “We shall worship Thy god and the god of thy fathers, of Abraham, Isma’il and Isaac,- the one (True) Allah: To Him we bow (in Islam).”
(Al-baqarah : 133)
We should be afraid to leave our next generation in the weak condition especially weak about iman.
ﻭَﻟْﻴَﺨْﺶَ ﺍﻟَّﺬِﻳﻦَ ﻟَﻮْ ﺗَﺮَﻛُﻮﺍ ﻣِﻦْ ﺧَﻠْﻔِﻬِﻢْ ﺫُﺭِّﻳَّﺔً ﺿِﻌَﺎﻓًﺎ ﺧَﺎﻓُﻮﺍ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻬِﻢْ ﻓَﻠْﻴَﺘَّﻘُﻮﺍ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪَ ﻭَﻟْﻴَﻘُﻮﻟُﻮﺍ ﻗَﻮْﻻً ﺳَﺪِﻳﺪًﺍ
Let those (disposing of an estate) have the same fear in their minds as they would have for their own if they had left a helpless family behind: Let them fear Allah, and speak words of appropriate (comfort).
(An-Nisa  : 9)
Sh. Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān حفظه الله:
“Without a doubt children are a blessing IF they are upright, however their uprightness has a cause, it is
- Tarbiyah (disciplining),
- Tarbiyah by their father for them, disciplining does not come by itself (automatically), there has to be a cause for it .. and
- Tarbiyah of the father (for children) plays a BIG ROLE in (their) uprightness or corruption and he will be QUESTIONED about them in front of Allāh سبحانه وتعالى.”
Can she travel without a mahram to visit her parents?
It is not permissible for a woman to travel without a mahram, whether she is
- Travelling to do an act of worship such as Hajj or visiting her parents in order to honour them and be kind to them, or
- Travelling for permissible purposes such as going on vacation etc.
The evidence for that is as follows:
1 – The general meaning of the words of the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam):
- No woman should travel unless she has a mahram with her, and
- No man should enter upon her unless her mahram is present.”
A man stood up and said:
“O Messenger of Allaah, my wife has gone out for Hajj, and I want to go out with such and such an army.” He said: “Go and do Hajj with your wife.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1862.
Muslim (1339) narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
“It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to travel one day’s distance without a mahram.” There are many ahaadeeth which forbid a woman to travel without a mahram; they are general in meaning and apply to all kinds of travel.
2 – It is well known that travel involves exhaustion and difficulty. Because of her weakness, a woman needs someone to help her and look after her.
- Things may happen to her that make her panic and act out of character if there is no mahram present.
- This is well known nowadays when there are so many car accidents and other kinds of transportation accidents.
Moreover, travelling alone exposes her to temptation, especially since there is so much corruption.
- Men who do not fear Allaah may sit neat her, and haraam actions may become attractive to her.
- Similarly if she is travelling alone in her car, she is exposed to other kinds of danger, if the car breaks down or if evil people conspire against her, and so on.
- It is perfectly wise that she should be accompanied by a mahram when travelling, because the purpose behind the mahram’s presence is to protect her and look after her, especially if something bad happens.
Travel exposes her to such things regardless of how long it takes.
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The point is that whatever is known as travelling, women are forbidden to travel without a husband or a mahram.
The Standing Committee was asked whether it is permissible for a woman to travel to Hajj without a mahram.
They replied as follows:
It is not permissible for a woman to travel for Hajj or for any other purpose without a mahram.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 11/97
Thus it should be clear that Islam is the foremost system when it comes to
- protecting women and taking care of them, and
- respecting and honoring them, and
- regarding them as precious jewels that must be guarded against evil.
Islam takes complete care of the Muslim woman and preserves her modesty, conceals her and keeps her away from places of fitnah (temptation).
Islam enjoins women to stay at home and not go out unnecessarily, so as to preserve their chastity, maintain their dignity and protect them from all evil.
Muslim women going out to public centres and swimming pools is something that is emphatically forbidden, because it involves a number of evils and negative consequences.
If these swimming pools are in public centres that are frequented by men and women, this is a great evil.
Abu Dawood (4010) and at-Tirmidhi (2803), who classed the report as hasan, narrated from Abu Maleeh al-Hudhali that some women from Syria entered upon ‘Aa’ishah and she said:
Perhaps you are the people whose women enter bathhouses?
They said: Yes. She said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say:
There is no woman who removes her clothes anywhere other than her house, but she has torn (the screen) that is between her and Allaah.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi.
At-Tirmidhi (2801) also narrated from Jaabir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not let his wife enter bathhouses.”
Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi.
What is meant by bathhouses here is the kind of bathhouses that existed in the past (hamaam or “Turkish bath”), because houses did not have bathrooms at that time.
The reason why women were forbidden to enter them is because of what happens in them of uncovering the ‘awrah, looking at that which is haraam and exposure to fitnah (temptation), although bathhouses at that time were not mixed.
So what about bathhouses that are mixed and public swimming pools in which ‘awrahs are uncovered and exposed?
The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas said:
- For men and women to swim together and then shake hands with one another after swimming is a great evil and it is not permissible to do it.
- The one who does that should be denounced and the ruler should prevent them from doing it.
End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 17/49
Swimming pools only for women ?
If these swimming pools are only for women it is not permissible to go to them either, even if that is less serious than public baths.
That is because women uncover their ‘awrahs, and even if the Muslim woman covers her body she will see those naked women and she will not be able to tell them not to do this evil action.
The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked:
I am an engineer working in the holy city; my job is in the building permits department.
A citizen has submitted to us a plan for a health centre offering natural remedies, with two sections, one for men and one for women. After studying the drawings and plans it was noted that there is a large swimming pool in the women’s section.
The project manager was informed that this swimming pool is not permissible, because swimming requires women to take off their clothes and then put on tight clothes that, even if they do not show her ‘awrah, will show the shape of her body, and as is well known it is not permissible for women to uncover the ‘awrah among other women.
So we explained to the project manager that, by way of blocking the means to evil and warding off evil consequences, he should not build this swimming pool because it was highly possible – especially nowadays – that among the workers would be someone who did not fear Allah, even among the women, and might take pictures of the women in secret, whether with a regular camera or a video camera such as is available nowadays.
This would cause a great of trouble and would turn this centre from being a centre for healing to a centre of corruption and fitnah.
And it is well known that everything that leads to haraam is also haraam.
We hope that you can clarify the Islamic ruling on such cases.
It is not permissible to build a swimming pool for women in the centre mentioned, because warding off evil takes precedence over bringing benefits.
End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 26/342-343