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Amongst the women reached a stage of perfection
Abu Musa al Ash’aree narrated that the Messenger of Allaah – صلى الله عليه وسلم- said: “A lot of men have reached a stage of perfection, but none amongst the women reached a stage of perfection except:
- Maryam bint ‘Imraan and
- Aasiyah the wife of Fir’aun, and the virtue of
When compared to other women is as the virtue of meat when compared to stew.” [Collected by Bukharee and Muslim]
The Hadeeth established perfection for Aasiyah just as it established it for Maryam, …the meaning of ‘virtue’ in this Hadeeth has been explained clearly in what was narrated by al Bazzaar and at Tabaraanee on the authority of ‘Ammaar ibn Yaasir that the messenger of Allaah – صلى الله عليه وسلم – said:
“Khadeejah has been preferred over the women of this Ummah, just as Maryam has been preferred over all the women of the world.”
A Hadeeth with a sound chain of narration which was used as evidence that Khadeejah is more virtuous than ‘Aa-ishah. 
Ibn at Teen stated:
“It could be that ‘Aa-ishah was not included here because she was only three years old when Khadeejah passed away, so it could be that what is intended by the Hadeeth are the women who reached puberty.”
However this viewpoint is weak, because the word ‘women’ in the Hadeeth is general and encompasses all women. 
An Nawawee states the summary of which is:
This Hadeeth has been used as evidence by those who claim that Maryam and Aasiyah were prophets, the majority of scholars however, are of the opinion that they are not.
Rather they are Siddeeqataan, Waliyataan from the Awliyaa of Allaah the Elevated, and a number of scholars have stated there is a consensus concerning this and Allaah knows best.
The term ‘perfection’ is used when something reaches its fullest and most complete state when compared to others like it, and what is meant by it here, is the most complete state in all virtues and all forms of goodness and piety.
The statement of the Messenger of Allaah- صلى الله عليه وسلم- :
“…and the virtue of ‘Aa-ishah when compared to other women is as the virtue of meat when compared to stew.”
The scholars explained;
Meaning the meat in any dish is more virtuous than its stew…and what is meant by its virtue is its benefit, being satisfied by it, the ease of digesting it, its delicious taste, and the ease a person finds in eating what he needs of it quickly and so on, so it is better than all the stew, and all other types of food.
‘Aa-isha has excess virtue when compared to other women just as meat has excess virtue when compared to stew.
There is no evidence in this Hadeeth that ‘Aa-ishah is more virtuous than Maryam and Aasiyah, because of the possibility that what is meant is her virtue over the women of the Ummah. 
 The scholars have differed as to which of the two is more virtuous, the preponderant stance being that each one (including Faatimah) has virtues over the other from different angles, and concerning the mention of other women in different time periods, then each one was the most virtuous during her time period and one should not delve into which one is better than the other.
A more in depth look a the most virtuous women can be found here.
 Fat-h al Baaree: Vol. 11 P. 130 Sharh Saheeh Muslim Vol. 8 P. 180
repost from asifeq
It is not permissible to watch pornography at all, not even with one’s wife.
Pornography is prohibited in islam. How big a sin is “watching” pornographic material with your wife once in a while?
Watching pornography is forbidden, whether a person is married or not. The one who does that has to repent to Allaah. How can a person watch such things with his wife and he can he permit her to watch it too?
Women are weak and are easily influenced; indeed watching such things may lead to problems between the spouses which may end up in divorce – Allaah forbid.
Undoubtedly if a man approves of such a thing he is lacking in gheerah (protective jealousy), which is what distinguishes a Muslim from others, from kaafirs and duyooths (cuckolds) who approve of obscenity and immorality in their families.
Moreover, watching such material makes one take the matter of immorality lightly and encourages promiscuity.
We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
- Let the one who has committed such a sin beware of the punishment of Allaah; let him hasten to repent.
- He should be keen to look for anything that may help his wife to remain chaste, not for things that will encourage immoral actions. And Allaah knows best.
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
If a person listens to Soorat al-Kahf on Friday, will he have the same reward as the one who reads the soorah?
Does listening to Soorat al-Kahf on Friday bring the same reward as that of the one who reads it?
The reward that results from reading Soorat al-Kahf on Friday is only mentioned for the one who reads the soorah on that day.
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
“Whoever reads Soorat al-Kahf on Friday, Allah will bestow upon him light between those two Fridays.”
Narrated by al-Bayhaqi; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani (may Allah have mercy on him) in Saheeh al-Jaami‘.
- It is well-known that the one who listens to a soorah is not regarded as having read it.
- Based on that, if a person wants the reward that is mentioned in the hadith, then he has to read Soorat al-Kahf, and it is not enough just to listen to it.
But if a person cannot read Qur’an well,
- So he listens to it being recited by someone else, seeking the reward that has been mentioned for that,
- Then there is the hope that he will have the same reward as the one who reads it,
- Because of his good intention and doing what he is able to do.
In the answer to question no. 10700 we have quoted the hadiths that speak of the virtue of reading Soorat al-Kahf. Please refer to this question for more information. And Allah knows best.
Oh sister, know that you will neither obtain lofty mannerisms nor a healthy marital life until you greet your husband like the greeting of the most gracious of hostesses to their guests.
Be keen in rushing to welcome your husband upon entering the home with a warm embrace [as this shows you were looking forward to see him and hence makes him feel loved].
Kiss him with love and respect, a kiss of affection and enthusiastic desire.
For this will cause him to have a strong bond with you, and in turn he will come to recognize your rights over him.
[Taken from “20 Pieces Of Advice To My Sister Before Her Marriage”, pp. 40-41]