What a person should do if he has been afflicted with Qadr which he dislikes
Shamsuddeen Muhammad bin Abee Bakr Ibn Qayyim aj-Jawzeeyah (d.751 A.H.) -Rahimullaah- said:
‘If a disliked Qadr crosses a person, then he has six considerations:
The first- consideration is of Tawheed, and that Allaah is the One who destined it for him, willed it for him, created him. Whatever Allaah wants occurs and whatever Allaah does not want does not occur.
The second- consideration is of justice, and that it will occur with Allaah’s command. It is just in fulfilling Allaah’s justice.
The third- consideration is of mercy, and that Allah’s mercy in what has been destined is generally from Allaah’s Anger and recompense, His mercy is present but hidden and not apparent.
The fourth- the consideration of wisdom, that the Allaah’s Wisdom -Subhanahu- necessitated this destiny. Allaah did not destine this in vain or command it for no reason.
The fifth- consideration is of Praise, that all complete praise is for Allaah -Subhanahu- for this destined Qadr from whichever way you look at it.
The sixth- the consideration of servitude of worship, and that a person is purely a slave of Allaah from every point of view. The regulations of his Master apply to him and are carried out due to him being his master’s possession and His slave.
So Allaah disposes him under His destined rulings just as Allaah disposes him under rulings of the Deen, therefore, the slave of Allaah has to conform and proceed with these rulings.
[From: al-Fawaid p.93-94]