We have lost our manners
Many of us, though we may have sincere and righteous intentions, have recently misplaced our ahklaq (i.e. we have lost our manners).
Many of us (myself included) have forgotten the proper way to advise our fellow Muslims.
When we advise our brothers and sisters if they are doing something incorrectly, we must remember to do it for the sake of Allah (SWT) with the best of intentions.
The believer looks for excuses, not blame for his brother.
We want the best for our brothers and sisters and hence we advise them because we love them, not because we think we are better than them.
For if we think we are better than them, then this is arrogance and pride, and arrogance and pride was the sin that got the rejected and accursed devil kicked out of paradise and damned.
We should not think we are better than others. We need to humble ourselves and be thankful that we are in a position to advise others. We shouldn’t advise people harshly, rather we need to be gentle, yet firm.
The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) was the best of examples sent to mankind and he would be gentle with others. We have heard the hadith of the man who urinated in the masjid and the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) handled the situation in the most eloquent of ways.
Some of us nowadays, if a brother is praying without a turban or a “kufi” (head-covering) or his pants below his ankles in the masjid, we may berate him, but is this really the best way, will he continue coming to this masjid?
There may be a time for harshness, but many of us are not in the situation to handle it as we are the laymen.
Posted on March 5, 2015, in Purification of the Soul / Manners / Character / Etiquette and tagged advice. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.