A golden rule of life to remember is that, “Do not react to nonsens
There may come a time in our lives when we are provoked to say something we may regret later on.
This may not be true in everybody’s case but holds particularly true in the case of people who have a hard time controlling their temper.
Even though we may be calm at other times, but always responding with anger, to a negative comment or something we dislike, may earn us the title of being an irate person, which of course isn’t an attractive character trait.
Being of irritable character is a very bad quality especially in girls and ladies.
And so, for the sake of our own sanity and dignity, we must develop the habit of pausing before responding to anything negative (either a comment or an incident), instead of erupting like a volcano at the slightest provocation.
Please note, the emphasis is on the word “respond” for a reason. And why is that so, you would ask.
Well there is something special about this word “respond”. Is it any different from “react”? Yes, as a matter of fact, there is a world of difference between the two.
When we react to something, we most certainly do not put in much thought into it before doing so.
It is done without thinking and more often than not, this reaction is later regretted.
If only we would give ourselves some time cool down and think before responding, we would avoid almost half of the problems we unwittingly land ourselves in.
A golden rule of life to remember is that, “Do not react to nonsense.
Respond to it.” In other words, one must never react to nonsense or negative comments. Instead, we must choose wisely our response to negativity and make it a conscious effort.
There may be times when we are provoked, and we are seething with anger within because of a person’s hurtful and provocative remarks, but the best path to choose for all Bright Muslimahs is to pause for a few seconds and ask the other person what they meant by what they just said and the reason behind it, instead of giving them a knee-jerk reaction.
When we develop the habit of responding with dignity despite the erupting emotions within, life becomes so much easier to handle.
From my experiences in life, I have learnt that this saying is true, “A moment of patience in a moment of anger prevents a thousand moments of regret.” – Ali (Radhi-Allahu ‘anhu)
An easy rule for Bright Muslimahs to remember in life is to – Respect the elders and show Kindness to the young – and always practice this no matter what.
The hadith below shows how important these two qualities are in the life of a Muslim:
The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) is reported to have said, “He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and respect to our elders“. (At-Tirmidhi and Ahmad)
May Allah help us to implement this in our life. Ameen
@ By Bright Muslimah