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Hadeeth On Importance Of Manners.. ❤
1) Abu Darda, radhi allaahu anhu, reported that Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, said,
“Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.” – (Al-Bukhari)
2) Abu Hurairah, radhi allaahu anhu, said,
I heard Abu al Qasim (Rasoolullah), sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam,
‘The best among you in Islaam are those with the best manners,
so long as they develop a sense of understanding.” – (Al-Bukhari)
3) Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, said:
“The most beloved of Allaah’s servants to Allaah are those with the best manners.” – (At-Tabaraani and Shaykh ul Albaanee, raheemahullaah, authenticated it in Silsilatul-AHaadeethis-Saheehah)
4) ‘Abd Allaah ibn ‘Amr, radhi allaahu anhu, said,
“Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, was never obscene or coarse. Rather, he used to tell us that the best among us were those with the best manners.” – (Al-Bukhari)
5) Anas, radhi allaahu anhu, said, “I served Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, for ten years.
During that time, he never once said to me as much as ‘Oof’ if I did something wrong.
He never asked me, if I had failed to do something,
– Why did you not do it?,’ and he never said to me, if I had done something wrong,
– Why did you do it?” – (Al-Bukhari)
6) Abu Hurairah, radhi allaahu anhu, said that Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, said,
“If one has good manners, one may attain the same level of merit as those who spend their nights in prayer.” – (Al-Bukhari)
7) Abu Hurairah, radhi allaahu anhu, reported that Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, said,
– And what is most likely to send people to Paradise?
– Being conscious of Allaah and good manners.” – (Al-Bukhari)
8) Nawas ibn Sam’an, radhi allaahu anhu, reported that Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, was asked about doing good and evil. He replied,
– Doing good is having good manners.
– Doing evil is what troubles you inside and what you would not like others to know about.” – (Al-Bukhari)
9) Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, said,
“He who does not show mercy to our young or show esteem for our elders is not one of us.” – (Al-Bukhari)
10) Abu Hurairah, radhi allaahu anhu, reported that Rasoolullah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam, said:
– Richness does not lie in the abundance of (worldly) goods,
– but richness is the richness of the soul (heart, self).” – (Muslim)
Good manners in one’s dealings with the creation has been defined by some scholars as:
1. Refraining from harming others
2. Performing acts of kindness,
3. Having a pleasant smile on one’s face.
Taken from: Sh. Al-‘Uthaymeen, Makaarim-ul-Akhlaaq, p. 37
Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas (radhiAllahu ‘anhu):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?)
He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them.
If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received
any good from you.”
[Sahih Bukhari Vol. 1, no. 28]
When a man wants to sleep, he sits for an hour, for the Sake of Allah, calling himself to account over the things that he has lost and gained during that day of his.
Then, between him and his Lord, he renews his sincere repentance over those things that he lost, and sleeps on that repentance, firmly resolving not to return to the sin when he wakes up–and he does this every night.
So if he dies on that night of his, he would have died upon repentance and if he wakes up, he will wake up going towards action, pleased with the postponement of his appointed time so that he can turn to his Lord and set right what he missed out on.
— Ibn al Qayyim al Jawziyyah
Not Everyone Is Suitable To Be Your Friend
Ibn Qudamah al-Maqdisi said:
“Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend.
You must verify that this potential friend has the neccessary characteristics that make friendship with him something to be desired.
The one you seek to befriend must have five characteristics:
He must be intelligent, as there is no good in befriending an idiot, as he will only harm you when he wants to benefit you. By intelligent, we mean one who understands things as they are, either on his own, or if they are explained to him.
He must have good manners, and this is a must. One who is simply intelligent might be overcome by anger or desire, and obey his desire. Thus, there would be no benefit in befriending him.
He must not be a fasiq, as such a person would not fear Allah, and whoever does not fear Allah cannot be trusted.
He must not be an innovator, as his abundance of innovation is feared from befriending him;
He should not be eager for the dunya.”
[‘Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin’ p.126-132].
When your companion becomes angry and says something that is unwarranted, you should not take it too hard.
His situation is that of a drunken person who is not aware of what is taking place. Instead, be patient, even if it means only for a little while.
If you reciprocate his words with harsh words of your own, you become like the sane person who seeks revenge on a madman, or the conscious person who seeks retribution from an unconscious one.
Look at him with a merciful eye and pity him for his actions.
Ibn Jawzi, Sayd al-Khaatir pg.406